“Say I Love You” was the theme of our Valentine Banquet this year.  I took about a week and asked the Lord to teach me 100 ways to tangibly say “I Love You” to my wife with words and actions.  This list below is what God gave me.  I shared it with the folks at the banquet.  You will probably find items that you do regularly and others that are out of your comfort zone.  I encourage you to look at this list daily and pick a few of these ideas to show true love to your mate.  I challenge you to do it faithfully for a month and watch what effect true love can have on your relationship.  Let me know how it goes!

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  1. By listening to their words with love.
  2. By being patient with their faults.
  3. By looking at them with kind eyes when they speak.
  4. By holding their hand with a smile.
  5. By cuddling when seated together.
  6. By a kiss goodbye every time you leave.
  7. By gentle touch any time you are near.
  8. By kissing passionately without prompting.
  9. By choosing to be with them over other people.
  10. By protecting their reputation when attacked.
  11. By protecting their spirit from harm.
  12. By promoting their good above others.
  13. By fulfilling their desires when possible.
  14. By a hello kiss when you meet.
  15. With long hugs for no reason.
  16. By desiring them intimately.
  17. By saying why you love them.
  18. By thanking them for their work.
  19. With concern when they are hurt.
  20. With comfort when they are troubled.
  21. With an apology when you are wrong.
  22. With longsuffering when they are angry.
  23. With humility when they hurt you.
  24. With joy when they are blessed.
  25. With laughter when they are happy.
  26. With tears when they cry.
  27. With security when they are afraid.
  28. By happily caring for their needs.
  29. By helping them fulfill God’s will.
  30. By serving the Lord together.
  31. By praying for them often.
  32. By praying with them daily.
  33. By encouraging them regularly.
  34. By asking them for their thoughts.
  35. By learning how to please them.
  36. By learning how not to displease them.
  37. By lifting their load when it gets heavy.
  38. By reading a book on marriage.
  39. By listening to sermons on marriage.
  40. By talking about how to make your marriage better.
  41. By asking how you could make their day easier.
  42. By asking how you could better meet their needs.
  43. By going to church with them each service.
  44. By voicing your pleasure with them.
  45. By saying “please” and “thank you”.
  46. By helping them with their household duties.
  47. With a foot massage after a hectic day.
  48. With a relaxing back rub when tense.
  49. With a full-body massage before bed.
  50. By gently caressing their face.
  51. By exercising together on schedule.
  52. By cooking their favorite meal.
  53. By dropping everything when they need you.
  54. By taking them to a favorite restaurant.
  55. By taking them on a picnic.
  56. By taking them on a walk.
  57. With a date by the ocean.
  58. By putting the kids to bed early and spending a quiet night together.
  59. By turning the TV off and talking about nothing.
  60. With reassuring words of love.
  61. With kind words and facial expressions.
  62. By telling them why you love them.
  63. By being their best friend.
  64. By looking for their needs.
  65. By happily fulfilling their desires.
  66. By being easy to please.
  67. By being hard to disappoint.
  68. By not keeping track of wrongs.
  69. By forgiving sins quickly.
  70. By not being selfish.
  71. By putting God first in everything.
  72. With stability and consistency.
  73. With a hand-written note.
  74. By texting them words of love when apart.
  75. By transitioning your mind before you meet.
  76. By reminding them that you made a good choice.
  77. By thanking God for bringing you together.
  78. By respecting their opinions.
  79. By never putting them down.
  80. By never calling names.
  81. By never saying the word “divorce”.
  82. By responding with respect.
  83. By respecting them purposefully.
  84. By scheduling time for them daily.
  85. With unexpected surprises.
  86. By bringing them something they enjoy.
  87. By looking them in the eye.
  88. By still pursuing them after the wedding.
  89. With soft words when they are upset.
  90. By putting yourself in their shoes.
  91. With a Spirit-filled demeanor.
  92. By trusting God in times of need.
  93. By protecting your home from sin.
  94. By yielding to God every day.
  95. By thinking about them when you are apart.
  96. With a quick call during the day to confirm you love.
  97. By learning their love language and using it often.
  98. By entering their world and enjoying their interests.
  99. With a quantity of quality time.
  100. By spending the rest of your life finding new ways to Say I Love You!