Terrific Marriage Advice from 12 Christian Couples

You Can Have a Great Marriage

You can have a great marriage!  Don’t settle for a mediocre relationship.  Engage the promises of God in your family by following this powerful advice from church members just like you.

Happily Married - Terrific Marriage Advice


As a pastor, I not only teach our church members, but I get the privilege of learning from them as well.  I thank God for faithful Christian people that love the Lord.  I asked 12 couples at our recent Valentine’s Banquet to give me one powerful marriage tip they have learned over the years.  We shared these during the banquet, and I commented on each one.   Their responses were worth their weight in gold!  I decided to share them with you today.   (more…)

What Does True Love Look Like?

21 Biblical Traits of True Love

It’s Valentine’s Day, and love is in the air.  Love is a word that is often used but usually misunderstood.  Do you really know what love is?  What does love look like?  How does it act?  Love deeper than ever with these Biblical traits of true love.

Happy Valentine's Day ETERNAL LOVE

1 Corinthians 13:13 “And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.”

God places a premium on love.
True love is (more…)

The Sadly Forgotten Importance of Virginity

tBillions of people around the world celebrated the Virgin Birth of Jesus Christ last week during the Christmas holiday season.  Truly, that is a miracle worthy of celebration!  [This Post is rated PG.]

Importance of Virginity

However, I can’t help but notice how frequently people skip over the important word VIRGIN.  We live in a hyper-sexual world.  Sexual sins are not only accepted in this generation but also are celebrated.  God’s people should live differently.  God has not called us to uncleanness, but unto holiness.  Virginity is still as important to God today as it has always been!

Let’s take a few moments to remember the importance of virginity.

What is Virginity?

VIRĠIN´ITY, n. [L. virginitas.] Maidenhood; the state of having had no carnal knowledge of man.  ~Websters 1828 Dictionary.

1.  a person who has never had sexual intercourse.
2.  an unmarried girl or woman.  ~Dictionary.com

Sex is a wonderful gift of God to be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage.  Any mental or physical (more…)

Simple Tips for a Spectacular Marriage

A Charge to Newlyweds that will Help us All

One privilege of pastoring is performing weddings.  I love being on the platform so close to the action as God unites  a man and woman for life.  I get to feel the nervousness of the groom as he awaits his bride.  I get to hear him catch his breath as he sees her for the first time in her wedding dress.  I am privileged to see the expressions on the faces and the emotions in the voices as they say their vows.  I watch their trembling hands gently place the wedding ring on their new spouse.  Yes, it is a privilege.  Every wedding makes me appreciate my wife more and reminds me how precious is my own marriage. Here are some thoughts I gave to a young couple at a recent wedding that are good reminders to us all.


The first miracle that our Lord Jesus performed was at the wedding of Cana.  The Lord puts His stamp of approval on marriage in Scripture.  Consider Matthew 19:4-6.

“And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.  What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

Marriage is the most intimate of human relationships.  It is not simply a legal contract, but also spiritual union in which God works a miracle making 2 separate lives become one. God created, defined and ordained marriage to be a holy union and life-long commitment between Husband and Wife.  This is a relationship so spiritual and so sacred that is to be ended only in death.  It is our privilege to be witnesses of this wedding ceremony.

Marriage is a spiritual union.  It must be built upon Christ to reach its potential.  So many people have given up on marriage today as antiquated and out dated.  Others see it as a failed institution.  I remind you that marriage does not fail people.  People fail marriage;  usually because one or both reject God’s design for it.  God created marriage and He alone has the wisdom to help you succeed at it.  Your success in this marriage depends directly on your willingness to submit to God and His leadership.  I believe you will. (more…)

12 Tips to Conquer Gossip and False Accusations

Innocent Until Proven Guilty

Innocent Until Proven Guilty.  This is one of the foundational principles of law.  An accused person is innocent until proven guilty.  This means the burden of proof is on the accuser to prove guilt.  However, in recent days it seems that paradigm has shifted.  Today, accusation is often accepted as fact and the burden is placed on the accused to prove innocence.  In addition, too many cases are brought to a close with circumstantial evidence taking the place of hard proof.  This is not only bad for the legal system, but it is terrible for personal relations.  Moreover, it is unBiblical.  This concept has crept its way into churches and is wreaking havoc among God’s people.

Judge gavel - Innocent until proven guilty conquer gossip

Satan benefits greatly from this new interpretation.  I’m sure he had a hand in it.  He is the accuser of the brethren.  Revelation 12:10 He accuses us to God day and night knowing that we are forgiven by the blood of Christ.  His tenacity should not go unnoticed.  He is just as determined to accuse God’s people to anyone who will listen.  He loves to accuse anyone and everyone of anything and everything.  This spirit of accusation is contagious.  It is a shame when children of God, begin mimicking their greatest enemy.  Some churches and religious circles seem to be entirely infected with this deadly spirit.  Unfortunately, this spirit of accusation can rear its ugly head in even the best congregations.  Rumors and gossip have always been the enemy of God’s work and fueled by false accusations.

The Bible requires 2 or 3 eyewitnesses for a conviction.

Deuteronomy 17:6

“At the mouth of two witnesses, or three witnesses, shall he that is worthy of death be put to death; but at the mouth of one witness he shall not be put to death.”

Deuteronomy 19:15

“One witness shall not rise up against a man for any iniquity, or for any sin, in any sin that he sinneth: at the mouth of two witnesses, or at the mouth of three witnesses, shall the matter be established.”

God’s plan was that hard evidence was needed to convict one of a crime.  We must be very careful of condemning people based on hearsay or suppositions.  There is a reason that hearsay is not admissible in a court of law.  A witness is to convey what they heard and saw not what someone told them they heard or saw.  To be sure, a supposition and circumstantial evidence may be enough to warrant further investigation, but it is not enough to convict of a crime.

Too many Christians believe what they are told about others too readily.  The fallen human nature enjoys a juicy story whether it be true or not.  People often pay to watch and read untrue stories in movies and books if the story is well written.  Unbelievable stories about “aliens” and “Elvis” bring in enough money to make a profit for unscrupulous magazines.  We must be sure to give people the benefit of the doubt and starve the fires of rumor and gossip. (more…)